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Silvie Walraven

In addition to the above mentioned tips, I’d like to mention that it is very important to look at things that we are happy about in ourselves when they arise, such as being helpful to someone, cooking food for someone, lending a listening ear, etc. Not as acts to be proud of, but to rejoice and be appreciative that they arise in oneself and about the positive effect it has on the other person. Focusing on the wholesome aspects arising from all those causes and conditions and nurturing these, rather than flagellating oneself over things that went ‘wrong’.