The Buddha Project Reply To: Y2Q2) The intoxication of anger and desire
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We have heard so many times that there is no happiness to be found in the pizza. More pizza doesn’t mean more happiness. Clearly the happiness doesn’t come from the pizza.
I get that.
But than something happens. Something unpleasant. And and my mind sees the person who said this thing that I didn’t like, or did something that I think is wrong, as the reason why I get angry. It takes reasoning to bend that view. My angry mind has every right to be angry it believes and I need mindfulness to stop myself from putting more fuel on the fire. Slowly I learn to let go.
The pizza not being the cause of happiness, is easier to understand than a person who triggered me not being the cause of my unhappiness. Recently I realized that I think other people are in control of their speech and actions and of course that is a mistaken belief. It helps me to let go and to wish the person who “made me” angry, to be happy.